It’s so funny how happy I have been at the prospect of having only one child in diapers. Well actually I only have one child in diapers and this is week 3 (or 4), I’ve lost track. But, the older two are definitely not “potty-trained” yet. We’re just enjoying throwing our money away by ruining underwear and buying pull-ups until we get there – and really they are getting there, they seem to have their pee control down and now both prefer that it only be released while safely seated on one of the 3 small potty options dispersed throughout our 1700 sq ft. home. (You really can’t have too many small pottys.) Pooping on the other hand has been well, not successful. Many a mommy has told me this is normal though so I just keep pushing forward and hoping that one day the kids will learn to #2 in the potty. I won’t feel like I’m failing though because I’m not. I’m doing a great job using the potty myself so no problems there. I won’t give myself credit or a hard time for something that these little tykes are accomplishing all on their own. As I’ve begun this new step with the kids I realize how many parents have very specific opinions on how it should be done. I wish I had one myself. I kind of just took diapers off and said, “time to use the potty, more than just occasionally.” But, it’s funny to me how as parents we like to steal the credit for our kids’ accomplishments. I’ve caught myself doing it over a well drawn letter. Yes I may have tried to teach her how to write it, but I didn’t do it. She did. Way to write sweetheart! You’re working hard on those letters!
The bumper sticker that says, “My kid is on the honor roll,” is that to show a child that you’re proud of their hard work or is it to show other parents what a great job you’ve done. As I’ve sat in mom conversations and potty training has come up, I have noticed the tone in which the ages of children when potty training are shared and how it changes. Those with kiddos fully potty trained by 2 and a half or sooner will say it with pride and a strong voice while those whose children were over 3 timidly say the age with a quieter or shaky voice. Who cares! It has nothing to do with whether you’re a good mom or not if your child chose to relieve themselves outside of their pants at an earlier stage than another. I’m sure there are plenty of talented, world-changing people out there who were not potty trained by 2. Just saying. But, the reality is, I’m just so proud of these kids. I have no memories of this stage for myself (thank goodness), but I know they’re working really hard to figure it out and I’m a proud mama. Not with myself because I seriously have no clue how to usher this in, but in spite of me, they’re doing great.
Anyway, while I am overjoyed with the transition and the far fewer changes throughout the day, I also got a bit sad a few nights back. As I was zipping the kids into their PJs, I realized that it’s pretty tough to use the potty especially with any haste, when you’re zipped and snapped into full body clothing. I might as well put them in a loose straight jacket and say “Now, make sure to get to the potty and pull down your knickers when you have to go.” Poor babies.
I LOVE footy pajamas! When Mahlia was a baby I tried to dress her in all her cute outfits when we went out because I thought I was supposed to but most of the time she just lived in those adorable little one-piece footy pjs. I feel like footy pajamas are the mark of young childhood. Not a lot of 8-year-olds + would gladly choose them as their bed-wear. And so, while I know they can wear them again once their more skilled at using the potty, holding their pee, unbuttoning and unzipping etc. I also realize that with the celebration of having not 3 but just 1 in diapers, I also have that tiny mommy ache of realization; these babies are growing up. Sorry big kids, I need a few more nights of this. Oh and A, you poor kid, I think you’ll barely wear normal clothes this month as I just need some extra footy PJ snuggles and you look oh so cute in well anything. Man I love these kids!